I had promised my friend that i wont tell anyone about our little ( to me it was quite big) incident happened last night, but when i thought about it, everything happened at that moment could have been easily fix with a simple apology, and let by gone be by gone. However, as human beings, we tends to have our pride, refusing to bow down to defeat, stick to our own believes and intuition, held our ground to the last man standing, even know sometime a difficult situation can be fix with a simple word. Yet, we will NOT give in!
That's call STUBBORN.
I have to admit, I'm one of the most stubborn person in my family, I'm a combo of my parents' stubbornness. I think that's where i get my stubbornness from. When ever we had a fall out in my family, and sometime I'm wrong, and sometime I'm right, OFTEN wrong! i was so stubborn, i will not apologizes because i "believe" that my ways is the "right" ways and why should i? i have my principals to upheld, right? I remembered back in my late teens, early 20's, i was going out a lot, even know was doing fine in school (um...i'm asian, i can study and party hard @ the same time) my parents told me i can't go out late anymore, my curfew was midnight. At that time, i didn't see their point of views, so i rebel, and stuck to my own schedules and do whatever i wanted. They retaliated by cutting me off financially and barricaded the doors if I was home after midnight. I was so stubborn, i held out this little war with my parents for the whole semester, my grades ended up slipping and i had to drop 2 of the classes. When i reflect on it now, that some how seem so stupid and such a waste of energy, my parents was on a look out for me, they want to make sure I'm doing good. Instead of communicated more effectively with them, and get my ways around them, i was being rebellious and stubborn, because what i thought was right, and I'm my own person, they have no right to tell me what to do!
Stubbornness will does more harm then help. Yea, it will help you look tough, but your face will be bruises.
Stubbornness will help your pride, but you'll STILL HAVE TO go ask someone else to solve the same problem for you.
That's why sometime it's better to accept defeat, apologize for the situation that was involved and move on. Look at Japan, they were so stubborn on wanting to be the martyr of Asia, so we bombed the shit out of them, and finally they swallowed their pride and admitted defeat. Look at Japan now, one would never thought that the proud nation like Japan, were once surrendered, because they know how to cut their losses and move on to be come the top powerhouse in Asia today.
Hopefully we should be more compromise, and less stubborn.
I'm an Optimistic, i hope so too.
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